#6- Obsession Over Love | Darr's Toxic Dynamics with Shah Rukh Khan

0:01 So if I mention Halloween, what comes to mind?

0:05 Hopefully not Santa Claus or Mira from Jag.

0:10 Ducky John and her darling outfits, Cute daydreams of

0:16 Samar. OK, OK, clearly I'm teasing

0:19 about what I said recently on here about Halloween this year

0:24 for me. When you hear Halloween, do you

0:28 also think scary? What scares you?

0:32 Do you like to be scared or no? Me.

0:37 I guess it depends It always depends.

0:41 No matter the question, there are topics that tickle my spine.

0:48 Films, of course. People want to feel the chills,

0:54 the terrifying. Maybe you saw my online video

0:59 series or other videos I did on Bazikar or my series on Dart,

1:07 and I fear I never hurt anybody. Well, now we all know that's not

1:13 quite true, now is it? Sometimes I think, you know,

1:20 life is scary enough. It definitely is.

1:25 Which is scarier, dealing with a stalker or rejection?

1:34 Curious what you think between me and you.

1:38 If I were friends with Kieran, I'll give her some advice and a

1:47 simple way to stop stalking in its tracks that I thought of.

1:54 I would tell her you're on girl. I got to do to stop.

2:01 It is simply just turn around, show interest, right?

2:11 I mean, do stalkers ever want who actually wants them?

2:17 Not from what I can see. I mean, all right, I do feel for

2:22 all clearly. I understand in many ways, like

2:28 so many other fans. Oh, roll, honey.

2:34 But at the same time I if I'm going to be honest, I actually

2:42 have personal experience in my life with stalking.

2:49 I have been a Kieran myself in my life and true stalking is of

2:56 course not funny. Like my little joke.

3:00 No, take it from me, I will say this, or rather ask this.

3:10 Did Raul even know Kieran really?

3:15 Or did he like the idea of her, the fantasy of her, someone he

3:25 couldn't have? Human nature, right?

3:31 You want what you can have sometimes simply because you

3:38 can't have it. So then you never get it right.

3:44 No happy ending ever because if someone always wants what they

3:52 cannot have and then whatever they can have, they don't then

3:58 one and so they never feel satisfaction or know in their

4:06 life. I mean, I do of course have some

4:11 thoughts. For example, Kieran had many

4:17 wonderful qualities from what I can see, that is for sure.

4:23 Two qualities though, I feel are especially important ones

4:29 perhaps, and may very well have to do with what Raul saw in her.

4:38 She was attractive and she was nice.

4:46 Many times men can interpret kindness, friendliness, or

4:53 friendship of someone they find attractive as interest.

5:01 I understand. I mean how can you really know?

5:05 It's always worth looking into to know for sure.

5:09 Of course. No problem, I would do the same.

5:14 You got to know it's worth a shot.

5:17 But of course once you do know, I mean you have your answer

5:24 right? Maybe if people were nicer these

5:30 days it wouldn't seem like someone loved you and wanted to

5:36 be with you forever and ever. Because these days it seems

5:43 kindness or friendliness can be for some reason so unusual when

5:52 it seems people are only nice when they want something from

5:57 you. Someone nice must want you,

6:02 right? Obsessively, passionately, you

6:09 and only you, Forever and ever. There is no other reason to be

6:16 kind. There is no other reason to be

6:20 friends, right? And then there is, of course,

6:25 what many people are talking about so much these days that

6:31 it's gotten to the point where many men say they are now also,

6:37 in addition to all of this, afraid to approach or interact

6:43 with women at all for fear of it being misinterpreted, exploited,

6:50 ridiculed or even worse, mischaracterized.

6:57 Should we blame Rahul for that? Yeah, probably.

7:04 Probably. That's how we got here.

7:08 We're all just doing our best right out here.

7:13 We're all misinterpreting or mischaracterizing or missing,

7:19 missing, missing. What you going to do?

7:24 I'll tell you what you shouldn't do.

7:29 Take it personally. Easier said than done, sure,

7:35 right? But as scary as stalking was for

7:39 Quran or rejection was for a whole, it happens.

7:47 I mean, it's really just the numbers game, right?

7:51 Most of us, I mean most of us, we only want one person.

8:04 It's not like a buffet, you know?

8:10 Do you take it personally if out of all the people that play the

8:14 lottery, you are not the random or lucky winner if you pick one

8:21 job when you have several job offers, does it mean there's

8:27 something wrong with any job unless it is the one you pick to

8:33 work? I mean, most of us can't work

8:36 that many jobs simultaneously at once, no?

8:41 Should those companies feel bad, wrong, damaged or not good

8:50 enough? Should they stalk you so you can

8:55 reject them some more? Raoul, darling, it's OK.

9:04 You are OK. I mean, you can be.

9:10 Keep putting yourself out there. Don't give up here.

9:15 No. Except no.

9:20 You will hear it, don't take it personally.

9:26 Honor yourself, be honest with yourself, work on yourself.

9:34 Become be the lottery someone gambles on win who wants you to

9:47 win once.